It’s been 10 days since I’ve updated and I know what you’re going to say, “Didn’t you promise to update this thing more frequently than you did your previous blog?” The answer is yyyeeeshhh. Fine, it’s yes, but since my last entry, things have occurred that have forced me to think about the wedding day aftermath. What do I mean? What am I talking about? Is Christian reading this and wondering if I’m going to call the whole thing off?

No, it’s not about Christian… directly. I hope he’s able to breathe now.

I’m talking about what we will do regarding the relocation, housing, living-together-happily-ever-after part. As crazy as this may sound to a lot of people I know, I do want to live with my parents when I am married. Yeah, this has the connotation of “living in parents’ basement to mooch off their income,” but that’s not my thinking. If anything, I’m thinking the opposite.

Ideally, I would like to have a home that Christian and I live in and my parents can come live with us. This would alleviate the strains that my mother and I have been going through ever since I went to college. This would also be the best way to move them out of Miami and bring them to new locations where they can find new motivation for work and life in general. One last plus to this is simple: free 24-hour babysitting once we decide to have children. If anyone is more excited than Christian and I about having children in the future, it would have to be my parents. Babys and bottles and baby clothing!? Ohmygosh, this is the best present evar!

Yes, they are that excited.

Anyway, it seems like an easy situation to arrange so why have I been turning it over and over in my head and let it keep me from writing here?

Well, it means that relocation will not be a two-person thing involving bride and groom. It will probably be more costly to relocated two more people. My sister will, hopefully, be away at college by this time, allowing her to continue with her life without being affected by this relocation. Should she want to move over where I’ll be, I more than welcome it. Family is incredibly important to me. They are the reason I keep toiling away, going for this degree in chemE to land a rewarding career. That and I love my momma’s cooking.

So besides costs, there’s the “finding housing large enough for 4 people plus a bird and a dog” or “finding housing for 2 people and finding separate housing for 2 other people with a bird and a dog that is close enough to the previously mentioned housing arrangement.” To top it off… this will depend on where we will have careers– and by we, I also include my parents since they’re too active to want to retire early. And on the side? There’s the  special request made by the parental units that they don’t mind moving to a new place, just don’t make it that much different from our current place. Ok, finding another Miami, FL should be easy to do on the east coast… of the U.S… that does not include NYC. (What have I gotten myself into?)

Have you ever heard of such a complicated situation? Have you even heard of anyone wanting to live with their parents after getting married? If so, do tell and hopefully I’ll gain some perspective on how to approach this.