As this event begins to take shape, I find myself moving from the large tasks on the to-do list to the finer details. We have a venue, I have a dress and we have a few people who are committed to paying for the catering, cake and maybe even open bar. With only 3 months now, the focus shifts to things like flowers, favors and music. That music piece seems mostly figured out since I hope to save money by hiring a DJ instead of a band. But what will my wedding song be? I have no idea.

I had forgotten there was such a thing until a classmate asked me about it. She finds weddings very important and the song that you dance to as a married couple carries significant weight with her. I guess I can see that. Nearly all the romantic comedies dealing with weddings make a big deal about this song. In “The Wedding Planner” J.Lo pointed out how Fran’s wedding was doomed from the moment she chose teal as the color for the bridesmaid dresses and Olivia Newton John’s “I Honestly Love You.” Ok, so maybe this is the only movie I can remember so clearly, but I’m sure other rom-coms have married couples who fight about the wedding song and oh-my-gosh how could you not remember what our wedding song was? It’s similar to the usual fight seen in movies of the couples who make a big fuss about “their song”, you know, that day they met and sparks flew and they kissed and fell in love. Bad example coming up, but it’s the only one I can think of: Adam Sandler and Kate Beckinsale in the movie “Click” showed how important that song was. He practically saved his marriage by recalling it!

Not to get all sappy, or show the full extent of my useless pop culture knowledge, but I think I should devote time to choosing this song before we end up dancing to the Macarena as newlyweds in front of nearly 100 guests. I know I don’t want something too slow or cryptic either. I want something that says, “we’re married and this song speaks our joy.” Even though it hasn’t been approved by the groom, I like Jack Johnson’s music. In particular, I like “We’re Better Together.” Does it sound wedding appropriate? Maybe not, but it does have the message I would like to convey and it sounds kinda summery, which guess what season contains July?

Anyway, my choice in a song is limited by my musical taste and lack of time to listen through entire rows of artists at the music store. Have you any suggestions on a romantic song that’s danceable? I’m not looking to waltz or do the foxtrot, just the typical high school slow dance. That is, unless we can cram in a full week’s worth of swing dance lessons before the big day. But then it would look like we’re performing in a dance competition being judged for our style, rhythm and on-stage chemistry. Scratch that. I’m keeping it simple.